That Girl from Derwent dwells on the value of religion this Christmas.
That Girl from Derwent has learned a few more things about prejudice since moving up North.
That Girl From Derwent reckons if you're going to be offensive, you should find a better reason.
That Girl from Derwent considers why it is that some words have wider implications than others.
Misanthropy is a generalized dislike, distrust, disgust, contempt and hatred of the human species, human nature, or society...
Basically, I just hate people.
Ah marriage, everyone's favourite little social convention. Spending the rest of your life with the one you love... which, of course, you couldn’t do without this ceremonial, people-monitoring, former tax-break.
For you see, everyone tells you that you must marry. You must find a partner and a house, then put them in the house and make them stay. Otherwise what’s the point in life?
Some folks even have time scales, would you believe? They say: ‘I will be married by the time I’m 28’. But what if you don’t meet anyone interesting? Are you going to settle for someone just to conform to a social norm and your biological clock? By putting a time scale on things, that’s what you are doing to yourself. You'll end up, by the time you're 28, thinking: 'well I don’t have time to meet anyone else because I have to have my third kid at 32 - so she’ll do. After all, she’s not THAT bad'.
Then you can disappear and leave all your friends behind because you don’t want to come out or you’re not allowed. Besides, you don’t have much in common any more: you want to hang out with other married human blobs so you can share recipes. That’s right, they have a lifetime together, but that’s not quite enough for the married couple.
Frankly the idea of ‘settling down’ sounds awful. Stuck in a house in one place for fifty years looking across the table at the aged face of someone you no longer have anything left to say to.
Doesn’t that sound lovely?
No doubt you’ll have kids. But why? Another opportunity for you to be tied down and simply live out your days praying for the sweet release of death. I’d like to see the world, I mean really see it, go everywhere before I snuff it.
You see, you can just be with someone. There’s no real reason to marry and buy a house (which you’ll spend your life paying for) and then you’re stuck in Yeovil (or wherever) forever. Am I the only one scared by this?
I say no to marriage. And while you're a student, stop thinking about it!
You are a very unhappy person. I really feel sorry for you.
Not funny or even vaguely interesting. Gross exaggeration plus sarcasm do not equal humour or satire. You also end up sounding extremely bitter.
I think the misanthropy header is rather misplaced here, since this article is more about disliking a concept than all people (why would a misanthrope worry about not being able to go out with friends..?).However, I certainly agree with the idea that people become very obsessional over marriage. When it becomes just another life-goal, rather than something you really want to do for good reasons that's when you have the problem. I think for some people marriage is just something that they are waiting for, and until they have it, they won't feel complete. The marriage quest becomes more important than the 'who to' or the 'why', and people get completely wrapped up in something without really asking any questions about it. Marriage, like university, should be a choice made over time, not an absolute from the time you're old enough to know about it.
well, someone gets it
The question that people need to ask themselves is, to quote the great Dr Percival Ulysses Cox, do you want to marry X or do you just want to get married?
More relevant to the article, I think the general axiom that 'what you're doing isn't as important as who you're doing it with' is applicable.
Interesting take. It's always worth discussing issues like this.
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