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I’m personally not a porn fan. I prefer sex in three dimensions. However, a large portion of us are porn watchers, as the popularity of RedTube demonstrates. With new videos uploaded daily and sub sections to suit all tastes, porn is accessible and popular among a large consumer bracket.
As a porn virgin, I was initially shocked by the graphic content of these sites (how naive, was I actually expecting it to be nice and respectable?). It seemed most videos focused on the women rather than the men, and most of those girls were doing some pretty disgusting things.
Despite my aversion to the porn industry, I began to understand why porn is so popular. I hate to admit it, but some of the scenes were insanely sexy. If I was more into the cyber pleasure world I assume I might be eaten up by porn websites and Facebook and end up as glued to my screen as a computer scientist.
I am not a converted online porn fan. The hottie I’m ‘seeing’, however, is a devoted worshipper, at least according to Google Chrome. How can girlfriends (or boyfriends) deal with their partner’s fondness or even addiction to online porn? Is it a sign that sex is not good enough? Do our partners crave a more kinky sex life? Do they compare our bodies to porn stars?
My initial reaction to discovering hottie’s porn was a surge of insecurity: was I that bad in bed? I quickly brushed this terrible thought aside. Mademoiselle is nothing if not a great shag (and writer?). I then purchased a black corset, fishnets and a whip to ascertain his partiality for role play. It turns out he’s not too adventurous in bed. Finally taking the adult route, I asked him why he was still watching porn when he could have me whenever he wanted.
Turns out that for him in any case, porn was just something he perused when bored. He certainly has an abnormally high sex drive. I wasn’t sure where I was going to fit into that equation. How could I sleep with a guy who enjoyed watching girls do such disgusting sexual acts? His addiction funds an abusive, illicit industry which I fundamentally disagree with. How can someone so polite and caring like my hottie tolerate such graphic content?
Eventually I found a way to deal with the problem. We set up a camera in the bedroom. Compromise. He can still watch people having sex whenever he wants, but it will be my naked body he’s staring at, not some random girl online. I now know that in his eyes it’s not about who is having sex or how they’re doing it, it’s just about the sex and I’m okay with that. Obviously I’m not suggesting all partners competing with porn make a sex tape. Indeed it’s a massive revelation risk, much worse than when Facebook photos 'get out'.
Obviously it's not the easiest thing to see your body on camera. However, your partner must love your body so you should too.
Additionally, there is something a lot less dubious about watching yourself having sex. At least you know you’re doing it for the passion not the money.
#19 I'm dismissing this particular 'opposing view', as you put it, because it isn't relevant to this article... If you want to debate the porn industry, its participants and its effects then write your own article...I'm sure lifestyle would accept it, if it had an argument. My point is this is not what the article is about. And yes sadly you've found a chink in my chauvnist armour. Like all men I can't spell properly. Damn.
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