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Wanted: Mr Big
Hey Contessa and Vanessa,
I'm 6'1 and flat footed so as you can imagine, finding a guy taller than me is quite difficult, and finding a guy who likes a tall girl is even more difficult. However, I was set up with a friend of a friend, we got talking on Facebook and we really clicked. He suggested we met up so I warned him that I was tall but his response was he loves tall girls – perfect! On the date I realised just how short he was. He'd never told me his height before when I asked - he always said he's never measured himself and used other excuses. I stood next to him and felt so awkward! He must have been 5'6 so I was a good 7 inches taller. When we were sitting down, the conversation flowed brilliantly and we really got on, but as soon as we were walking side by side, the reality was I couldn't handle the height difference! We kept getting looks from people too, which was a bit embarrassing. Is this something I'm going to have to face or shall I move on?
Thanks, Helen, York.
I really understand the height issue myself. The sad thing is, if you had been the short one and he had been 6'1, everybody would have just accepted that, but according to society, girls can't be taller than the man they date! However, society also believe skinny is better and younger is better and if everyone followed the rules of society, we would live in a very dull and plastic world, which is quite frankly unattainable. So, if you want to date a guy who happens to be shorter than you, then go for it! If everything else is there, then really you shouldn't worry. Maybe you should ask yourself, would you prefer a man who was absolutely lovely in every way but he was short, or a tall guy, who wasn't so nice? Height only comes into it at the beginning of a relationship, much like appearance, but once you've been on a few more dates with this guy, you'll probably see beyond it.
Contessa, X
Stop being shallow and making this guy out to be a dwarf, 5,6 is a very reasonable height. The world of celebrity is awash with vertically challenged men, Tom Cruise and Jamie Cullum spring to mind. Do you think their wives/girlfriends complain about their height? No, they put on some flat shoes, crouch a bit and get on with spending their money. Avoid holding hands with your short beau as much as possible – you don’t want people thinking you’re picking up your child from school. If you are dead set on finding someone as abnormally statuesque as yourself, try the University’s basketball team, or the well-bred fellows of James College. Just remember, you know what they say about men with big feet…big shoes.
Vanessa, X
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