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For our Christmas special, we’ve taken a situation that can be applied to any party over the festive season, the awkward drunken kiss...
Caught in the middle...
Dear Contessa and Vanessa,
My sister and I have always been close; we're identical twins! I'm single and she's had a boyfriend of about 3 years now. For our joint 21st, we had a massive party in which everyone got a little worse for wear. Later on, whilst people were in the living room area, I popped into the kitchen to get a much-needed glass of water. Next thing I know, my sister's boyfriend had his arms around my waist to spin me round and before I knew it our lips were locked! Of course, I didn't encourage him, but I was in such total shock that I didn't pull away until a few seconds after. As you can imagine, I am completely mortified by this, because I know how much my sister loves him - is he the cheat I think he is, or was it just alcohol fuelled? If he's kissing his girlfriend's sister, who else is he doing it with?
Thanks, Sam, Leeds.
Hi Sam,
I can completely understand your dilemma and I think if your sister ever found out, she would too. If I were you, I would talk to her boyfriend about it - understandably you'll probably feel quite awkward around him now and perhaps angry too, but a face-to-face conversation is definitely needed, if he hasn't already apologised and acknowledged his mistake. As unlikely as it may sound to you, if he was completely inebriated perhaps he genuinely mistook you for your sister in which case he may have thought he was actually kissing his girlfriend! However, if your sister found out I think it would only cause unnecessary upset. It sounds like this could just be a one off - but it goes without saying that if he tries it on again with you, (and he'd have to be a pretty big fool to do that!), then tell your sister without a shadow of a doubt! She deserves to know a cheat. For this one though, I would put it down to alcohol and the fact you're twins!
Hope that helps! Contessa, X
Hello Sam,
First of all, your situation sounds like a case of Shakespearian mistaken identity or a bad 70s sitcom, although this is probably not your fault. Unlike Contessa I refuse to believe that he just ‘mistook’ you for your sister, unless you were wearing exactly the same outfit (which would be a bit creepy). Sounds like an excuse for some twin-related mischief to me. Guys have a curiosity about twins, perhaps he wanted to see whether he picked the right one...don’t stand for it. Tell your sister, she deserves to know. If it happens again, a good slap round the face should suffice.
Vanessa, X
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