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Hi Contessa,
I've only been going out with my boyfriend for less than a month but we've already slept together. He didn't want to use a condom so I took the pill, but I didn't realise you have to take the pill a couple of days before you have sex. Now, I'm late for my period. I am completely terrified that I might be pregnant, it is my worst fear. I'm too scared to take a pregnancy test to find out for sure. I haven't even told my boyfriend yet because we're nothing serious, he'd probably run a mile. My family would kill me if I were pregnant. I have so many questions running through my mind right now, please help.
Daria, Leeds.
Hi Daria,
Ok, I'm not going to lecture you on contraception but hopefully now you've learned from it and remember there is always the morning after pill, which has a 95% accuracy rate, which you can take up to 3 days after intercourse. However, the first thing to do now, is to get that pregnancy test. If abortion is an option you want the earlier you do it the more 'humane' it is. Don't go through this alone though - have a friend nearby or a sister? If your worst fear is true and you are pregnant, there are lots of options and measures to consider. You have to think are you in the right sort of relationship and mindset to take on a baby; however, if you think your boyfriend is going to run a mile after finding out you are pregnant, I'm not sure how reliable he'll be as a father. However, a change in diet and exercise regime or just stress can cause your period to be late; so don't worry too much if you have irregular periods. Definitely get a pregnancy test in this case though.
All the best,
Contessa X
Hello Daria,
First rule to contraception – ALWAYS read the small print. You don’t want to swallow some pill then read the leaflet saying “Take with milk and a small cucumber to avoid blindness”. Your doctor surely must have talked to you about it beforehand? Unless you obtained it on some sort of black market, in which case it may not even be the pill you’re taking but Viagra or a Polo. That said, take a pregnancy test as soon as possible. Even then they’re not always 100% accurate. If it’s positive, take your story to a glossy rag-mag such as Pick Me Up, naming and shaming the father. That way he can’t worm his way out of it unless he wants to bear the public shame. If he persists in trying to run away, threaten him with Jeremy Kyle. No-one wants that.
Good luck my dear,
Vanessa X
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