Less, is most definitely more

Confidence is the key

I’ve learnt a lot this fresher year: how to train my body to take copious amounts of alcohol, how to flirt with seminar tutors so I get a good mark, and so much more - but there is one lesson which I feel stands out from all the rest.

That’s how to be confident.

Let me explain.

So, at the start of my blogs, I said that I would look at how different styles and outfits have affected my chances of pulling. This is something I have been trying to analyse over the last term. And yes, I did think that it was pretty simple: if you wear fewer clothes, then more guys will be attracted to you.

Now, I’m not so sure that is 100% true.

Yes, if you wear less, a lot of guys will stare at you in clubs, chat you up - maybe even slap your ass – but does it mean that they are attracted to you? I think my night out this week answered this question.

Socials are a brilliant opportunity for people to go out wearing very little, which I absolutely love, and this week I went out wearing – well, just my underwear bascially. It took a little bit of Dutch courage to get me to leave my house, but once I did, I was loving it. Everyone was looking at me (and my friend, may I add), and I was playing up to the attention. We were dancing in Ziggy’s, surrounded by a group of guys and having the time of our lives.

And then something occurred to me. I wasn’t having fun because I was getting lots of male attention. I was having fun because I was on a night out with my best friend. We were dressed up and I really felt like I looked good (amazing, really). It was nothing to do with the attention I was getting from the guys; it was all to do with the fact that I felt good.

And why did I feel good?

Because I was dressed up for me. I was wearing new shoes and new ‘clothes’, I had done my make-up and hair and I felt great.

So this is the lesson I’ve learnt: you should only wear something if it makes you feel good. And you shouldn’t go out for anyone else – you should do it for you. Because, and I promise you that this is true, nights out are so much more fun when you are thinking only about yourself and your “bessies”. Going out with the aim of pulling is nowhere near as much fun, and, besides, you definitely get more attention when you’re not looking for it.

I would love to tell you about any explicit activities I got up to this week, but sadly, or not so much, there aren’t any. My best friend and me went out. We danced with guys. We drank. We rocked our new shoes and crawled on tables and had lots of comedy chats with people.

And it was the best night out I’ve had since I started university.

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