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Wrong.
A middle-ground seems to have developed, unannounced, and it has left me feeling very confused.
And for the first time ever, as much as I hate to admit it; I think Facebook can sum up how I’m feeling: ‘It’s complicated’.
I always believed that if you were in a relationship you had a certain set of rules to follow. You have to be faithful and not cheat; you have to spend time with your other half; you have to be nice to them and go out with them, etc.
However, this is different if you’re single. These rules do not apply to single people – or do they?
Recently I’ve been spending quite a bit of time with my ex. We decided it would be good for us to be friends - the relationship hadn’t worked out and we had accepted that and moved on. However, when, on Wednesday night, I received a text from him, being grumpy at me for kissing someone else in Ziggy’s (it was purely a case of mistaken identity, but that is not the point), I realised the friendship wasn’t as simple as I thought it would be. It seemed that while he said he was happy for me to do as I liked (and he certainly acted he liked), I discovered that for some people, letting go isn’t that easy. People still feel reasonably attached to someone they’ve dated, and it is hard for them to see that person with someone else.
So can you ever really be friends with an ex?
I am still going to try, because I think he is a great guy. However, maybe I need to set more boundaries and have a talk with him about what we can and cannot do. I’ve always believed friends are people you tell everything to - whether that’s about a bad day you’ve had, or an amazingly hot guy you met at the gym – but obviously the rules are not the same for a friendship with an ex.
And now I’m confused.
I’m confused about the status of my relationship.
Am I still single? Yes.
But can I do what I like, when I like, without having anyone to answer to? No.
Right now, I’m in a position I do not want to be in, and no one seems to know the answers. So I shall persevere with the friendship because it matters to me, but I will also try to have the fun I want to have without upsetting anyone too much.
But I don’t doubt that it is going to be hard always having to watch my back, making sure that no one else gets hurt.
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