Roxy highlights her choice for the perfect guys to look for this summer.
This week, Roxy's all about getting back to the animal inside.
Me?
Something that has been weighing on my mind recently is whether it is a bad thing to pull someone who is in a relationship. If I was in a relationship, I know I would be devastated if my other half even thought about kissing someone else and I know personally that I would never, ever, cheat. But what if you’re the other girl - the mistress? Should you feel bad for taking someone else’s partner? Or should you not feel an ounce of guilt – after all, it isn’t you that has cheated.
I’ll admit that I’ve been the mistress in quite a few occasions over the last year. And I’ve never really felt bad about it. In fact, I think being a mistress is perfect for someone like me, with my astounding fear of commitment and strong desire for constant excitement. It gives me all the benefits of usual hook-ups, without the negatives of the ‘talk’ about where things are going. Being a mistress is beautiful in its simplicity. Be it one kiss, or a few weeks of hook-ups, you always know the end result is going to be nothing.
Why do it then? Well, why the hell not?
I always thought that if there was one person who was to ‘blame’, who should carry the society burden of guilt then it should be the person who was in the relationship. But what is the point of them feeling guilty? If everyone had fun, who cares? To me, if someone is cheating, then that probably means that they aren’t happy in their relationship, so then why not cheat, liven things up a little bit.
Maybe those who are cheating aren’t happy, or maybe they just can’t resist. Or maybe they just get drunk and kiss someone else for no real reason more than ‘why not?’
Then again, what even is cheating? I guess everyone has to draw their own personal line on that one. For one person, it might be looking at another girl/guy, for another, it might have to be full on sex. But is a cheeky emotionless drunken make-out session cheating? I wouldn’t say so.
If you’re cheating, then maybe you need to figure out why you’re doing it. Is it because you want the freedom? Or is it something more serious, like you’ve fallen out of love?
Either way, I think it’s about time we stopped blaming the mistress. After all, if it wasn’t me, it would probably just be another girl. I’m going to keep my head held high, because I really don’t believe I’ve done anything wrong. And if anyone wants to argue otherwise, bring it right on.
#20, okay, I for one, happen to think that if someone premeditates on murder, that's A LOT worse than what eh french call a crime of passion... but anyway, off topic. #19 doesn't say the girl shouldn't "man up", they just say the man needs to as well...
#20 premeditated murder is murder of the 1st degree, thus more servere than manslaughter... So I think your point is a bit stupid... Maybe you need to recheck who the idiot is?
Hahaha, loving the tidal wave of abuse.
ps roxy add me on facebook
Mate, give up. She's only interested in guys that ARE already getting laid...
As someone who has been on both sides of this I think you are all being rather unfair towards Roxy. I for one enjoy reading her articles and can see where she comes from. Guys cheat on their girlfriends when something isn't going right or they have drunk too much and occasionally a combination of those but I don't think it is necessarily fair to blame it on the "other woman". For a start she may not know that he has a girlfriend when anything initially happens and this may well remain the case for a considerable time after which she will feel terrible and not take things further. That was my personal experience and I know that I never wanted to hurt either of them and just wanted the guy to be happy. after all isnt that all we ever want for our friends
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