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This week I’ve been thinking a lot about why people do the things they do, and why, when people do ‘bad’ things, they allow themselves to feel guilty about it, for a long time. I’ve always been an advocate of living in the moment, not worrying about the things I do and say, because, after all, what does it really matter?
But not many people live like that.
Societal constraints mean that people feel unable to act without constant reflection on themselves. Individuals have to conform to societal norms, that is just how the world works. But in doing this, are we losing what it really is to be human? Do we push aside our own desires, our wants and needs, just in order to fit in?
We do. Everyone does.
But I think we should stop. When was the last time you thought about what you wanted? About what you really wanted, not about what you think you should want.
My mother constantly tells me that I must be lonely being single, I must hate it. She tells me that I need someone, because someone else will make me happy; make me feel good about myself. And sometimes, in my lowest moments, I think she might be right. But if I’m honest, if I actually look at what I want, I realise I don’t want or need someone else in my life to make me happy. Because I am so amazingly happy as it is.
So this week I am urging you to stop thinking before you act. Just do what feels right, do what you really want to. Get back to human nature, before all these annoying societal constraints, where individuals would do what felt right because it felt right. Most of us never allow ourselves to give in and experience anything as raw as real primal desires.
If you want to have a one-night stand, I mean, really want to and it’ll make you happy, then do it. If you want to shout your lungs out at someone, then do it. Whatever you want to do, just do it - but make sure it is really want you want to do.
After a few weeks of being a drunken mess in Ziggy’s, I was ready to hang up my heels and stay in this week - I didn’t need to make a fool of myself for the eighth week in a row. But then I realised, f*ck it, I have been having fun just doing what I want to. Any consequences don’t really matter; they all blow over with enough time.
This week I’m all about getting primal; raw, angry and fierce.
I feel ready to take on the world.
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