Roxy highlights her choice for the perfect guys to look for this summer.
Roxy looks at whether the "other woman" is always in the wrong.
This week, Roxy's all about getting back to the animal inside.
Antonio and I never took off; maybe it was something to do with the distance making it impossible. Maybe it was an inability to understand his Spanish culture. Maybe he was too wrapped up in Hollywood, and I was too wrapped up in watching my fairies in jars to see if they actually did come to life at night.
To this day, I refuse to believe that it was the 31-year age gap that meant our love could never be.
I got older, not surprisingly, but boys my age never really did it for me. At High School I held no interest for the childishness of my peers, always wondering what the attraction was to these idiots who only ever talked about video games and porn. I felt myself unable to join in the girl-chat on which boy was the cutest. I guess to me they were all ‘cute’, in the way that a baby is cute – adorable to look at, but in constant need of looking after.
I had hoped that when I started university, my fascination would be met – my thirst quenched. The guys here would be older, wiser, with much more life experience. Maybe I would finally find someone to take over Antonio’s occupancy of my heart.
But I have yet to find someone. As much as I hate to admit it, these university boys are more like play-things: they’re still boys.
And this is why I spend my days dreaming of an older man walking in and sweeping me off my feet. He would be settled in a job; he would take me out, buy me nice things, and insist on looking after me. He would have slightly greying hair, and kind eyes. His heart would be open, and ready to love. He would make me feel safe, enveloped in his sophistication.
Everything about this blog screams ‘Daddy issues’, but this is not the case. I just seek sophisticated intelligence, having always been older than my years, and I think it is about time I met a man who can keep up.
Although I will continue to hold out for Antonio, I may lay him aside if I find someone who matches, or betters him. Without the limits of distance, fame and fortune.
Way to alienate half the readership by calling them immature 
"I had hoped that when I started university, my fascination would be met – my thirst quenched. The guys here would be older, wiser, with much more life experience."
How's that? It's not like you start university one day and suddenly you're a sophisticated man of the world who stops playing video games and wearing t-shirts with writing on them. Unrealistic expectations might be a part of the problem here.
I am also a little bit in love with Zorro.
I think *everyone's* a little bit in love with Zorro. And if they're not, then they should be!
#2 I don't think its silly to assume that university life would be more versatile than home life. I expected to meet all different kinds of people, even those who stay in playing video games. Although, less likely to meet those on a night out.
I love girls who go for older men. Without doubt they see themselves as adventurous and mature and civilised and refined when in reality they are whiny, possessive, jealous, greedy and selfish
Slightly greying hair?! There's the mature, then there's the fatherly. Blatant Daddy Issues.
Roxy, you definitely don't come across as mature, quite immature and like the boys you refuse to have relations with. And an older man isn't hard to get. You're obviously just barking up the wrong tree.
#6 uhhh why Is a girl with an older boyfriend any more likely to be those things? My boyfriend is a tasty quarter of a century older than me, I don't see myself as exciting, I am not whiney and greedy I am just an ordinary person who fell in love with someone.
I never know how seriously to take the actual content of Roxy blogs. I think they are designed to be written, rather than be an outlet for her real feelings or whatever she is actually doing or wanting to do. But feature writing is such, I suppose...*sigh*...
I am 45 and my girlfriend is 20. So I have clearly got a perspective or two on the article. I didn't go out looking for a younger girlfriend and she certainly wasn't looking for an older man. We just happened. What started as a fun fling has become a very serious, loving relationship, well into its second year. I would very strongly guard anyone against deliberately trying to meet a much older person. I think it is the flip-side of the predatory older male trying to snare a young girl. There are plenty of those around and if, as you say Roxy, you want to meet one, there are loads of them about and I can't quite imagine how you have avoided bumping into one!
People make all kinds of stereotypical assumptions about age. There will be plenty of highly mature, wise, attractive boys of Roxy's age, and plenty of very immature, idiotic men my age. Conversely, my ex-wife (38) was hugely more immature and had significantly less emotional intelligence than my 20 year old girlfriend.
So age really doesn't matter. I think there are some trivial details about each other that my girlfriend and I enjoy that ARE attached to our age. I find her extremely energetic and up for life, and predictably I have a lot more money to allow us to do things, go places than would most 20 year old guys. But these *are* trivial. We are together because we fit and love what we have found, not at all because we get off on the age difference.
Until boys under the age of 25 are able to put down their gaming, porn, own penises, emotional insecurities and above all their mates for more than 10 seconds without getting the shakes, girls will continue sneaking off and having fun with older guys. Simples!
#6 Are you on medication for that? How on earth could you possibly know?
#9 had it right, then #10 came along with her stupid comment.
If the media is anything to go by, it's boy with MILF relationships that are currently trending! All ten of the ten most recent cases of teachers struck off for relationships with teen students have been women. Ain't just Waterloo Road 
I love #10's comment. So true.
10 Is it lonely up there on your pedestal?
#10's comment is daft. Speaking as #8, you don't get with someone because of their age. Yes, some younger guys are immature, and some older men are too! You fall for a person, only a fool would restrict their options by only going with older men...and for stupid reasons!
#16 I don't think Roxy said she was only going for older men, just as I don't believe she was saying she was only going for taken guys in 'The Other Woman' blog.
A lot of younger women are attracted to older guys. That doesn't mean they're going to ignore all guys their age.
God I hate Roxy and the awful pointless arguments her "blogs" generate.
#17, so true. And at University, I find it difficult to gauge how old guys are when I meet them. Sometimes they seem really immature, and then I find out they're actually three years older than me!
#18 I hate pointless comments that don't comment on the blog; hate for hate's sake is so out of fashion
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