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Casual:
As soon as you get to the point where you can be like “are you coming over tonight?” without having to specify an activity, do it.
Okay, now for some more serious ones. Probably best to wait until at least the third date (probably longer) for any of these, otherwise you’ll come across as try-hard. But that’s fine because you shouldn’t have decided you want something serious with her before then. Remember these are the ‘I want you to be my girlfriend type dates’. Some ideas:
Obviously some of the dates can be used in both categories, and most of the time relationships aren’t as clear cut as serious/casual. But hopefully they give you some rough ideas.
This article is a bit short so I thought I’d take the time to recommend a great website. The21convention is a men’s success convention who uploads videos of all of their speeches. It’s like TED except the videos are about being awesome. It started off as just of collection of the worlds best dating coaches but has expanded to include advice from world experts in loads of different areas: relationships, lifestyle, health, self-actualisation, entrepreneurship…. the list goes on. I’m really not exaggerating when I say pretty much every video has the potential to change your life. Doug Mcguff’s speech on exercise and nutrition in particular is truly outstanding. Check out the site here.
"Any activity that was awesome as a child, is now awesome again. Air hockey, mini golf etc."
I second this wholeheartedly. Particularly swimming and going to zoos.
"Doing something like putting a blanket and place settings down, and eating it on the floor in your room can be cool as well."
For real? Good God, man.
I know these articles get a lot of comments and maybe you like the contoversy they create, but please PLEASE get a new writer. 'Alex Hitchens' has repeatedly written awful pieces, some of which were glaringly misogynist, and despite people's claims that they shouldn't be taken seriously their tone is not tongue-in-cheek. They have the tone of a smug boy letting us all know his vast experience in pulling hundreds of women, despite the fact that his advice is utterly useless (especially a previous piece about acting stupidly to get a girl). So, if it's meant to be light-hearted the tone's been missed; if the articles are meant to be taken seriously, then I despair.
Yours,
A Concerned Citizen
"especially a previous piece about acting stupidly to get a girl"
I'm sorry, but that's not what he said. He said being smart often COMES WITH these other qualities and behaviours that he doesn't think you should do. Nowhere in the actual article did he say you should act stupid, and he explicitly said he thinks being smart is an attractive quality. Yes the title is Be an Idiot, but that's surely to get attention rather than encapsulate what he's trying to say.
Yeeeaaah but listing all the traits intelligent people have that supposedly prevent them from 'f**cking hot girls,' he suggests you should try to quell them. i.e. don't have those traits. i.e. don't act intelligently. i.e. act differently from who you really are. i.e. act 'like a dumb guy' who are so full of self-confidence.
Great advice.
Take a lesson
http://www.youtube.com/user/NineteenPercent#p/u/19/1T9RFU-_YgA
You articles are aiming to be like those written by Heathcliff for The Yorker last year. Those articles were well written and hilariously self-deprecating. I get the impression you actually believe what you are writing (poorly) and that is very worrying. There's a market for this, but you're not the person to sell it.
Since you're dredging up old articles, I thought I'd add to the discussion. Heathcliff's articles were well-written, there's no denying that, but appalling in content. One in particular was just disgustingly horrible to read, referring to girls as "slags" and provoked so much outrage it had to be taken down. Really not someone to be emulated.
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