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Now here is the question: should you ever revisit a previous encounter?
If you are hoping to reignite a previous one night stand, it may well be difficult; obviously it depends on your relationship with this person. If they were a stranger who you picked up one night and have had no contact with since, clearly the likelihood of being able to find them, let alone seduce them again, is somewhat limited.
If they are a close acquaintance with whom you had a one nighter then perhaps tread carefully; if you are fine with each other now then suggesting another bunk up might make things slightly awkward if the other party isn’t interested.
I would suggest some light flirting coupled with the odd mention of your last encounter together which can help you gauge how they would feel about a repeat performance. If they flirt back and seem keen to talk about the last time, then perhaps you are in with a chance.
In my case, the handsome young man who I’m hoping will revive my flagging sex life is a friend but not one who I see very often or have much contact with, which obviously makes the task of seducing him again potentially something of a challenge.
I have spoken to him since our first dalliance (for the story of that passionate encounter, please see article entitled “School of Seduction”) and there has been no subsequent awkwardness. We have spoken of it since and he has given me the clear impression that he is up for round two.
Yet, when we came face to face last week, my shameless flirting seemed to get me nowhere (my mojo clearly still absent).
The sequel is often a letdown
Is he all mouth and no trousers, as they say? Or is he perhaps having second thoughts as to whether revisiting my gorgeousness is a good idea?
If that is the case then he may have a point; I think we can say from cinematic experience that the sequel is often a letdown. In our minds we have turned the original into something spectacular and our expectations are high, how can we not be slightly disappointed?
Certainly I have found the same to be true of the sexual sequel. On one occasion I have no real idea why I did it the first time, let alone the second! In that instance there was a distinct lack of excitement, desire and sobriety, leading to a lack of skill in the both of us.
So the sequel may well let you down, especially if the first time was earth shatteringly good.
However, ever the sexual optimist, I refuse to let this prevent me from trying again. It was good the first time; I most definitely enjoyed myself. Therefore why can’t it be good, or even better, the second time?
We at least have a little knowledge regarding what floats the other’s boat now, which we didn’t possess before. Perhaps if I utilise my very best techniques we could create a sequel which far outstrips the original. Now I've convinced myself, I just need to convince him.
Maybe my powers of seduction will inspire him to return for several sequels; just like the Rocky films...only better.
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