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Indeed, sex during study breaks, between the pub and the club, and in the mornings before lectures provides ample opportunities to get down and dirty.
One of the great advantages about living away from home is that our parents aren’t around to restrict our frolicking. For freshers, the sudden release from parental control makes us extremely promiscuous. Being single, this is too much of a good thing; it is hard to refrain enough to avoid procuring a bad reputation. But for couples, university has utopian qualities with no limits to having fun.
However, perhaps all this sex is just too much. Couples can get into a routine in which sex is just a part of their daily checklist - brushed my teeth? Yes. Eaten some food? Yes. Had sex? Yes. Couples can forget what it was like to be single - when one never knows when their next episode of making love would come around, or indeed, when parents were the number one enemy for having a good time.
By limiting sexual frequency, the act in itself would become more sensual. One of my friends uses a reward system, only sleeping with her man after he’s done something spontaneously sweet. The romance of the initial chase is restored and her relationship is still exciting.
The problem with this is self restraint. I personally find it really hard to say no. Indeed, since my boyfriend is good looking, intelligent and funny, like most of the boys here, then I have an ever present desire to please him in order to keep him.
However, this week I gave it a try and abstained for three whole days. What a mission. At first he assumed fatigue, then that something was wrong. Instead of doubling his efforts to be the romantic lover boy, he peppered me with questions about why I was so quiet.
In the end I explained why I was holding back, but he didn’t really understand. And for once I learnt something from a man regarding my sex life. Instead of cutting down sex to make our relationship more exciting, he proposed we both make an effort to maintain the romance while still enjoying our daily sexcapades.
For indeed, is there such a thing as too much sex? As one friend joked: “Sex is like Pringles, once you pop you just can’t stop.”
That you say you have to have sex with your boyfriend in order to "keep him" is, to me, a sign of a failing relationship... and perhaps also shows you're not valuing yourself enough if you think he won't be interested unless there's the promise of sex somewhere in the bargain.
Ah your so wrong... You really need to have more... thats value for effort...
lol i love this- where have the statistics come from about couples in york generally having sex once a day?! did you ask people??
fun article- you keep me amused 
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But #1 is right - a relationship shouldn't be based on sex. The frequency of sex is irrelevant; I know some relationships in which there is none and some in which they brag about 8+ times per day (and regularly)... but it doesn't make the relationship better.
Dependency on sex is a bad thing... sex itself isn't 
Great this makes us singletons who don't get it enough utterly depressed... too much sex?? Really??
#7 I think this is its purpose really..
i have sex at least three times a day
I think considering most of the mojo articles are about being single it's ok to have one about being in a relationship.
Whoever the Mademoiselle's lad is better keep a close eye on her!
I'm sure from reading past articles a while back that she had a thing for all the rowing club, numerous drunken pulls, and being proud of sleeping around (this is a good point and indeed she shouldn't be embarassed by having fun).
He's a sucker...
I don't have sex three times a day. But I do orgasm thrice daily.
Every day? Really? I mean, I'm in a long-term relationship, and my boyfriend and I give each other orgasms pretty much every time we see each other, but sex every day - 1) Effort 2) It kinda ruins the anticipation for it. We only have full sex 2 weeks out of every month so we can have something to look forward to.
What? I'm in a long-term relationship myself, and it sounds like you're "rationing" sex. Hmm, I don't agree. Surely if it's good enough, you want it very regularly. There should be no need to withhold it to create anticipation; moreover, if it's that good, it's effort worth making...
No matter how amazing something is, doing it all the time makes it less exciting. If you had ice cream three times a day, or went on a rollercoaster ride every day, you'd probably get sick of it. Sex is an incredible thing, I just think it's appreciated more with a little bit of restraint. I'm not saying that's the case for everyone, but it's certainly worked in my relationship of several years.
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