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The Guy’s Guide to Girls - The Game

I'm making no promises...

Thursday, 18th November 2010

Alex Hitchens

'The Game' is like Marmite, you love it or hate it, and either way, you know it’s a bit weird. It is an account of how Neil Strauss penetrated a secret subculture of Pick-Up Artists. He chronicles his transformation from an average guy, frustrated with his lack of success with women, to a master seducer. He learns every line, trick, and gimmick, there is to be learnt so that he can successfully lead women from an initial interaction all the way to the bedroom. It’s sold millions of copies, spurred the creation of a hilarious TV show, (VH1 - The Pick-Up Artist) and become a hushed topic amongst guys behind closed doors.

Honestly guys, most girls know about this book, you haven’t stumbled onto some great secret. For me, the book has quite frankly just been annoying. I hate when I’m talking to a girl and some guy comes over trying to put me down with something like “OMG, have you like read The Game?” As if guys never hit on girls before someone wrote a book about it. Douche.

First off. This book won't help you with girls. In fact it will make you worse. Here is my three sentence review of it in that regard:

Lines don't work.
Peacocking (dressing weird to stand out) is stupid.
Doing magic tricks in a club is just plain idiotic.

In fairness, having met one of the guys from the book and seen him in action so to speak, he was a pretty cool guy. I feel confident in saying that most of the guys in the book will be the first to admit to how creepy and seedy it all was. It was a stage of their lives that they have long since evolved from and to their credit several of them have gone on to do some amazing things.

One thing the book does get right though, is that being good with women is a skill, in that it is something you can work on and improve. Very few guys will admit to this, it means they have to take responsibility for their failures. They can't just write it off as some unfathomable mystery, ("I guess it just wasn't meant to be") or more commonly to their looks. (By the way looks don't matter anywhere near as much as you think they do but I'll write more on that another time).

I’m using The Game to introduce this column, but if you’re a PUA (Pick-Up Artist) who only cares about getting lays this column won’t be for you. I’m not going to be revealing tricks to get girls into bed. I’m going to help you become a more attractive man who women will want to go to bed with. For the moment I'm going to remain anonymous. This may change but for now I haven't quite decided on how far I'm going to go with this column. On the one hand I don't want to alienate any female readers, but I definitely don't want to give you the same socially conditioned bullsh*t that most dating advice is.