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If you get a girls number, don’t take too long to text her. In my humble opinion all it does is let the spark fade. If I get a girls phone number on a night out, I usually send her a text at the end of that night. Just something really simple like – Get home safe, Alex. – It’s means she has your number, you’re not trying to get a reply, and it’s just a nice touch. Also, you might occasionally (okay it’s only happened to me once) get the reply.... “Hey, what are you doing right now!?” BINGO.
Don’t ask too many questions!
Use statements instead of questions. Don’t put questions into your texts because you think it will make a girl more likely to reply. If she’s into you, she’s going to reply. Asking too many questions just looks needy. You should be offering value in your text. Say something about what’s going on in your life at the moment or just something funny and random.
How long to text back?
So the age-old question of how long until you text back. Well not really age-old but still. The golden rule is to keep it unpredictable. For the most part you want to take as least as long as she did to reply to the text. However, you should also mix it up a bit, sometimes reply straight away, other times leave it for ages. If you always leave it for ages, it becomes obvious what you’re doing. Seriously, my last girlfriend when we first started seeing each other would take forever to reply to texts: it was just so obvious what she was doing, it was a turn-off. What you are trying to convey is that you have a lot of stuff going on in your life and you reply when it suits you, be it straight away or in a few hours. Ideally you should actually be busy and not just pretending!
Use mass texting.
Gotta love smart phones for this. When I’m sending a girl a random text about my day, or something funny that just happened to me, I usually send this text to a few different people. It saves time. And it means you’re not too invested in each reply. If you’re sending that one text to that special girl you like, you might spend the next few hours waiting to see if she replies. Meh, if someone doesn’t reply to one of my mass texts, I’m probably not going to even notice.
P.S. If any girls that I happen to know are reading this. I never sent mass-texts to you. Really. You were different.
"If I get a girls phone number on a night out, I usually send her a text at the end of that night. Just something really simple like – Get home safe, Alex. – It’s means she has your number, you’re not trying to get a reply, and it’s just a nice touch."
Except that sounds a bit... creepy.
I've been sending systematic, serious texts. Now I see where I've been going wrong.
sending a text saying get home safe? Really? What about being just a normal person instead of trying to cultivate a mystique because if you do net a girl and she finds out there is no mystique you're in for a world of hurt. what a ridiculous article
Re: sending a text saying 'get home safe'. You don't think that comes over as i) stalkerish, ii) slightly creepy - sounds like you'll be waiting at her house with some chloroform and a machete, iii) desperate and clingy?
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